Anyone who has been reading my blog since the beginning will know about how Iyla used to be a terrible sleeper (and anyone who hasn’t can probably guess from my blog name!). When she was ten months she did finally start sleeping through - three months after I spoke to a sleep expert and carried out a form of sleep training which involved sitting next to her cot for hours whilst she
went mad learnt how to go to sleep on her own.
We did eventually get there and she now sleeps for around twelve hours, something which I am still grateful for EVERY SINGLE NIGHT!
There is one thing which isn’t sorted though and that’s bedtime. I never know how she is going to react, most of the time she is fine and can be put down in her cot awake and just left to go to sleep but other nights she will go absolutely mad and will need me to stand there next to her for nearly an hour. Dad2BabyInsomniac has the same problem on the nights when he puts her to bed, on two occasions when I’ve been at college he has had to go and lie on our bed with her until she’s fallen asleep.
I’m not against leaving her to cry but her cries are all different and I know when it’s one that can’t be ignored. Some experts might say that she is doing it because she knows we will give in but I don’t believe that to be true because the next night she can go down without any problem at all.
On the nights when we have to stay with her it’s like she is genuinely distressed, terrified almost, looking around the room with huge eyes. It’s really upsetting to see and I just don’t understand why it only happens sometimes.
This week has been a particularly bad week, last night she screamed so much in the few minutes that we left the room for that she was sick (only a little bit) , I know this can happen but she has never done it before so I don’t understand why she would start now.
She went crazy again tonight, I just spent ages calming her down and managed to sneak out but right now she is moaning and talking to herself, something which she has spent over an hour doing for the last week. I don’t mind that because at least she’s not crying but an hour ago she was exhausted and asked to go to bed!
I just don’t understand and it really stresses me out when I don’t understand something.
Has anyone else experienced this kind of bedtime inconsistency with their toddlers?
Right now she is chanting ‘chocolate cake’ down the monitor when she should be doing this…..!