I knew from the moment we saw this baby at my 12 week scan that it was a boy. I was even sub-consciously saying ‘him’ when talking about ‘him’ so it came as no surprise when we went to our 20 week scan and saw a willy staring back at us!
It might not have been a surprise but I was still so happy when the sonographer confirmed what we were having, of course I would have been equally happy either way but it is really exciting to be having another baby with the added extra of it being a bit different – from trying to change nappies without being wee’d on to experiencing what it is like to have a mother / son relationship.
It is also nice to think that our family will be equally balanced. Obviously having a boy doesn’t mean that he will be into the same things as Dad2BabyInsomniac (he might prefer ballet to motorbikes!), but at least he won’t be outnumbered by hormonal women!
Another thing that I feel pleased about is still being able to call Iyla my ‘favourite girl’ – again I know it is just one of those silly things you worry about before the baby arrives but I find it harder to imagine having another little girl because I love Iyla so much and would be worried about comparing them. Plus I know how much me and my sister argued growing up and I am a tiny bit relieved to not have to deal with girl fights!
I am not sure whether we will have any more children, I know that in a few years I will be begging Dad2BabyInsomniac to have another one but financially I don’t think it would be a particularly sensible thing to do, unless we won the lottery that is. So at least having one of each means that we could stop without feeling like we need to have more. I know it doesn’t matter what sex your children are but I am not going to lie, I like having a girl and I like the fact I am having a boy. If I was having my second boy then I think I would want to try for another in the hope of it being a girl and likewise if I was having my second girl. I would never dream of interfering with nature or anything but there is something nice about experiencing both.
When it comes to raising a boy there are some things that I will be taking really seriously. Firstly I am going to make sure that he is domesticated, there is nothing worse than those teenagers who leave home not being able to cook or work a washing machine because their mum has done it all for them. I know they think they are helping but really it just creates someone who is always going to need a woman to do everything for him, and I owe it to womankind not to send another man like that into the world!
Secondly I want to do everything I can to make sure he respects women. Of course people make mistakes, and I know teenagers can be pretty awful but I would feel responsible if I raised a son who treated women badly so I think in a way when I look forward to all these future issues I feel a lot less confident of my parenting skills when it comes to raising a boy – I must remember to look at this when Iyla hits 14!
Note to Dad2BabyInsomniac’s mum (and dad) – Dad2BabyInsomniac might not always pick his clothes up off the floor but he can cook, clean and work a washing machine, plus he has a lot of morals and respect when it comes to how women are treated so you should be proud.
So these are my main thoughts on having a boy.
My only concern is that I am going to find it hard work! I know boys generally have a lot more energy than girls and where I can leave Iyla somewhere safe in the knowledge that she will still be there when I get back, I know it might be very different with a boy!