One of the many reasons I write this blog is because should anything happen to me before the kids are old enough to remember then I know they will be able to read back through some of it and get a picture of what I was like and more importantly how much I loved them.
I know it’s a morbid thing to think about but knowing they could read back through this little record of our lives makes me feel a little bit better about the idea of me not being there to watch them grow up.
We all have things that we want to pass on to our children, lessons we want to teach them and values we want them to have. Things we hope they will do differently to us and things we hope they will take away from us.
I’ve written this letter for when my little people aren’t quite so little, just in-case I never get a chance to tell them any of it myself…
To My Gorgeous Little People,
Your arrivals into my world changed it in a way I had never imagined, you helped me become the person I always should have been and I thank you so much for that. It makes me sad that it took me until my late 20’s to really be happy with myself and it’s something that I want to be different for you two.
I want you to always know your worth, to believe you deserve good things and to not put up with any crap, from anyone.
To never stay in a relationship with someone who doesn’t treat you well no matter how much you think you love them.
To not let people walk over you, there are people in this world who see kindness as weakness and will take advantage, always stand up for yourself. Equally treat others well and with respect, be nice, everyone is fighting their own battles.
Don’t stay in a job you hate, life is too short, money is important but not as important as your happiness and earning less doing something you love is better than being rich doing something you hate. But don’t forget to dream big, your aim should be to get rich doing something you love, work hard and focus and you will get there.
Don’t ever obsess over your weight. Being healthy is important but so is not obsessing over calories. There are no bad foods, you can eat anything in moderation and with exercise. Women in porn movies are not a true representation of the female body, boobs sag, thighs have cellulite, tummies wobble and bums don’t stick up, that’s normal!
Beauty comes from within. It’s okay to have parts of your body you don’t like, when you are a teenager there will no doubt be lots but one day you will have children of your own and see those features on them and they will suddenly become beautiful.
USE CONTRACEPTION! Having kids is amazing but it’s hard work and although no relationship is guaranteed not to fail there will be some that will not be right to bring children into, one day you will look back and thank god you didn’t accidentally fall pregnant during your time in them.
Educate yourselves before trying anything new, this mainly applies to your teenage years. I never want to tell you not to do anything, I want to trust you to make sensible decisions so if your friends are all talking about trying some new drug then do your research, google it and find out all about it and if it doesn’t sound like something you want to do then don’t be afraid to say no. Never just follow the crowd, if it’s not right for you then start your own.
And most importantly, enjoy life! Try not to worry or be afraid, if something isn’t making you happy then change it. Be strong, be brave, trust your instincts and follow your heart.
I love you more than anything, Mum xxx