One of the reasons we wanted to have two children was so that Cherry would have a sibling.

Someone to play with, to share with, to fight with and to love.

The selfish part of us also liked the idea of the two of them being able to play together meaning that we might not need to spend so much time doing Hello Kitty puzzles or playing with Play Doh.

Now J is here I have wondered on more than one occasion whether they will ever actually get along in the way I imagined. To say Cherry didn’t react well to his arrival would be an understatement but I am slowly starting to see signs of things improving.

I think a big part of the problem is her noticing the inconsistencies between the way they are treated. For instance if she hurts him we put her in the kitchen for three minutes but if he tries to scratch her then we don’t. We have different rules for each of them because he is a baby and she’s not but despite me selling her the idea that being a big girl is better, it just makes her want to be a baby too.

Part of me wonders whether it would have been different had he been a girl. She is so girly and when I watch her noticing other little girl babies pink shoes / clothes I wonder whether it would have made a difference but there we go. We will never know now.

I’m still remaining positive though and I am really hopeful that once she sees him walking and talking she will realise that they are the same and it’s not her against him, the baby. Hopefully then she will realise that it’s them against mummy and daddy!

As well as observing their relationship grow over the next year I am also going to be capturing it on camera as I’m very excited to be part of one of Lucy’s many brilliant photo projects.

It’s called Siblings and the challenge is simply to photograph your children together then join in with the linky which will go live on the 10th of each month.

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There is one photo that I’m already looking forward to taking and that’s one of J and Cherry walking off together holding hands. He should be walking by the Summer so my plan is to do it on a nice sunny day.

  1. lucy

    2 January

    Would you believe that I have that exact same shot on my list for some point this year? I have it pinned in various different version, but the hand holding walking together bit is my favourite. That an cutesie kissing on the cheek shots. Although I’m not sure that actually achieving it is going to be that easy…. my little lady is walking beautiful, but does absolutely nothing on demand!!! And if she’s with her brother they both prefer to run rather than walk.
    So excited to get started on this project. I think it’s going to be so lovely. x

  2. It’s so hard with a toddler isn’t it. I completely understand, they are old enough to notice the different treatment but not old enough to understand why it is different for a baby. Im imagine when the baby is a toddler too that will even out.

    I feel bad at the moment because Cait is just at that standing-up-but-will-fall-and-bang-her-head-any-second and getting hold of everything she shouldn’t stage (sure J is too!) and I can’t take my eyes off her for a second. It is hard to do much with Lissy that Caitlyn can’t wreck or try to eat haha!

    L x

  3. Carie

    2 January

    Oh they’re just so sweet together – I love the second picture of them cuddling! I suspect Elma is going to be walking soon so it’s a shot on my list too. I can’t wait for the weather to get a bit better – whenever I try to take pictures inside Elma just crawls out of shot!

  4. Lauren

    3 January

    haha! Me, you and Lucy have the same photo on our list.
    I’m really looking forward to this project, and I’m so glad you are part of it too 🙂 xx

  5. Alexandra Mercer

    3 January

    One of the things I love about having lots of children is seeing how all their relationships develop with one another. If a couple of my children get bored with each other then they’ll go off and play with other siblings. I’m sure yours will get along fine once your youngest is able to talk more.

  6. Circus Queen

    3 January

    You can never know how it’s going to turn out, can you? Apparently I adored my brother when we were babies (we’re only 14 months apart) but I mainly remember fighting with him most of the time and hating his guts! We did play together though, when we weren’t driving my mum insane. And at some point in our adolescence or adulthood, we became good friends. He is now an amazing brother as well as brother-in-law and uncle.

  7. Notmyyearoff

    3 January

    They look so so sweet together. I love the closeness it shows. There’s about 15 months between me and my brother and we used to batter each other but were very close. I think we went through lots of different phases and even now I think we have the same sense of humour.

  8. Double Trouble

    4 January

    I have a version of that photo you talk about, and admittedly it’s one of my favourite shot of them. I’m in love with your second photo, it’s a sweet capture. Really looking forward to this project

  9. Jenny

    4 January

    I am with you Jess, I can’t wait to have pictures of my two holding hands, playing together, and have special moments as siblings. I couldn’t imagine not having a sibling for my kids. I think it’s (usually) the best bond ever. I have six siblings and am so close to all of them. I wanted that for my two. Not six lol but at least one. Let’s hope they get along. Or I might just have to have more. Lol

  10. Kerry

    4 January

    Aw what a lovely post! I have never wanted an only child so we are trying for baby number two, although my OH took a few months of persuading and Sienna is now 14 months already and I am still not pregnant. I hope they will still be close! x

  11. Katie

    5 January

    These photos are stunning Jess!!
    And you have ones of them holding hands and cuddling so you are one up on us, F would still never touch his bro voluntarily.
    It is getting a tad better now that S is more interactive and mobile, they played a splashing game in the bath together and i nearly cried! ha x

  12. Heidi

    13 January

    That pic where he’s lovin the baby and she’s lovin him is prcieless– I love that babies eat you when they are trying to give kisses!

  13. Pregnancy-Mummy Diary

    14 January

    The one where they are holding hands <3

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